I’d just say to aspiring journalists or writers—who I meet a lot of—do it now. Don’t wait for permission to make something that’s interesting or amusing to you. Just do it now. Don’t wait. Find a story idea, start making it, give yourself a deadline, show it to people who’ll give you notes to make it better. Don’t wait till you’re older, or in some better job than you have now. Don’t wait for anything. Don’t wait till some magical story idea drops into your lap. That’s not where ideas come from. Go looking for an idea and it’ll show up. Begin now. Be a fucking soldier about it and be tough.
The world hungers to hear from those with the courage to go to the edges – wherever they are – and hear that the dragons are less frightening than our imaginations have led us to believe, leading us to sacrifice the vast possibility of our lives for something so much smaller than our hearts and minds are capable of containing. We need, ourselves, to go to those edges, and peer over them, if not to see what lies beyond, then to see what lies within.
I was a new writer and I was supposed to write all the time, wasn’t I? I had not yet discovered that there are times when one can’t write, one shouldn’t write, times for thought, for deepening, or just reading, or simply living.
Stanley Crawford in a letter to Noy Holland (The Believer, Feburary 2010)
Often, it’s not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant to be, and already are, but don’t know how to be.
I think reading is reading, and I’m not going to be ashamed of a goddamn thing I read.
We live in an age where we feel guilt whenever we have to cut someone off but the reality is that some relationships do need to die, some people do need to be unfollowed and defriended. We aren’t meant to be this tethered to the people in our past. The Internet mandates that we don’t burn bridges and keep everyone around like relics but those expectations are unrealistic and unhealthy. Simply put, we don’t need to know what everyone else is up to. We’re allowed to be choosy about who we surround ourselves with online and in real life, even if it might hurt people’s feelings.